When a relationship is relatively new, a couple just can’t seem to get their hands off of each other, but as soon as the “honeymoon phase” is over, the desire slowly fades – and this is quite natural. But as a woman, it can be quite frustrating because you feel that you are no longer attractive and desirable. But this isn’t necessarily so. And you can do certain things to make him desire you once again:
Don’t be harsh on yourself.
Do not lose your composure just because he shuns your advances. Pull yourself into your full height, hold your head high, and don’t allow yourself to wallow in self-pity. It is time you take things into your own hands and do something about this.
Pamper yourself and reap the benefits.
Release the tension and loosen those muscles. Visit the spa and have a great, full body massage. Go to the salon and have a new haircut.
Get those endorphins going.
Exercise produces endorphins, which make you feel good. So, hit the gym. Or go to the community pool. Or ride your bike. Start exercising and do it religiously. It will not only make you feel good, it will also do wonders in making you physically attractive.
Get socially active.
Sometimes, a man will pay more attention to you if he realizes that your world does not revolve around him. Open up your social life – no, this is not to find another man, this is to make you less lonely and your man to pay more attention to you. Enroll in a class, join Language of desire a club or volunteer in a community project.
Have a positive outlook in life.
Assess yourself: are you so preoccupied with worries that you’ve forgotten to smile and laugh? A man will not be encouraged to take you to bed if your eyes are hard and your facial muscles stiff. You need to relax more, have a sense of humor, and look at the positive side of things.
Work on your body language and he’ll be hooked on you once more.
If you want to be irresistible to your man, then work on your body language skills. Sometimes, it’s the subtle flirting that turns a man on. You can move in a very seductive manner without letting him realize that you’re actually seducing him.
Take a vacation if you have to.
It would be good if you two can have a short vacation, just the two of you, without worries about the house or work. You can take also take this opportunity to find out what his sexual fantasies are, and maybe work on fulfilling them.